Push, push, and push more

I have done two in-field work with Dennis and Derek, one night game and one day game. I've gotten similar feedback from both.

I need to push harder.

I can approach, and come across as social and friendly. But I need to be sexual. In the words of Derek, "You have to make her feel uncomfortable. Push until she tells you to stop."

I want to be liked (who doesn't?). As a result, I've always played it safe. I talk about safe topics, make safe jokes, kino her on safe places (sometimes not at all). It takes a lot out of me to open and banter with an attractive girl for the first time at a bar, that I just don't want to screw it up.

But that's exactly what I must do. I have to be willing to be blown out. In fact, I'll learn a lot from blow outs and nothing from friendly conversations. I'm not out at bars to make friends. I don't know these people. They mean nothing to me. Just because I started talking with them, doesn't mean they'll have to like me. So I have to push the interaction into the sexual territory.

I need to tell her she's naughty and need to be spanked. I need to touch her beyond her arms. Hold her hand, touch her neck, inner thigh, and linger a bit longer than I feel comfortable with. I need to incorporate sexual innuendos in conversations (not so good at that yet, but trying), and I need to be blown out a lot more. A lot more.