Half-way through, I got one of the worst blowouts thus far. I approached two really (9.5 hot) girls. I know they're from USC 'cuz there is the Stanford vs USC game that afternoon, and union square was filled with people wearing USC paraphernalia. I tapped one on the shoulder to open her, she did not stop. The crowd was thick, and I got cut off. I tried again.
Me: Hey stop... I just
Girl 1: No thanks.
Girl 2: We know you... you say the same thing to millions of girls.
Me: Haha...
I've never been blown out doing my direct opener before. This is the first time and I didn't know how to handle it. Afterwards, I thought, maybe say something witty, like "hundreds of girls... not millions" or something even more creative. But at the time, I laughed it off, but inside I was pretty shaken.
Afterwards my roommate offered a very useful insight. These girls are probably all sorority girls, which means they talk to each other. I definitely opened a set of USC girls before them, and word must have gotten across. That made me feel a lot better, but it was only after the fact.
For the rest of the session, my calibration was way off, and I couldn't hook any sets.
I felt a bit dejected, because the last few times I was out doing daygame, I've always had an instadate. The streak was broken. PandaMan and Lester both left a bit after 5pm and I went into Borders to find a book for myself.
I saw a cute girl looking at books at the fiction section. It took me a long time before I opened her. But I did.
Me: You look like someone who reads a lot, do you have any book recommendations?
Her: (Smiles) Ha... I'm a librarian. I'm actually looking for book recommendations myself.
Well, the set hooked very nicely. We talked about books for a bit, then got into a very personal discussion. She's a grad student and we each talked about our lives to eachother. I felt she was genuinely, interested and attracted. She was asking questions about me and telling me about her. So after talking for 5 minutes, I tried to instadate.
Me: You know, I really enjoyed talking with you. You wanna grab a coffee, sit somewhere and chat?
Her: (looks around) I'm actually here with my boyfriend...
Me: Oh... okay.
I continue as if nothing has happened and keeps talking, for another few minutes. This has happened a few times now, a girl with boyfriend who seemed genuinely interested. Very weird.
Although I didn't get anywhere with that girl, I felt much better. I made her day and I learned that I had not regressed after all. I'm still a PUA.
What I learned:
- Blowouts happen, even during the day. It's not me, nor is it anything that I could control
- I can hook sets, venue and target choice is an important factor
What I need to do better:
- Warm up faster, especially on slow days.
- Don't let blowouts affect my subsequent performance. Find ways to recalibrate after blowouts.
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